The Real Feminist

The real feminist does what she wants regardless of what the world thinks.
The real feminist isn't swayed by other's opinions regarding what she should or shouldn't do.

I am a stay at home mom, a house wife and proud. Is it a bit traditional? Yes. Does that mean that I am beaten down into "dank submission", where I have no voice or say in my life? No! I am powerful in what I do. I am spending my life loving on my baby and my husband. I am a woman who is the glue to my family. I am the world to my little boy, and I have the opportunity to make my husband feel loved, appreciated and noticed every day. Who doesn't want to feel loved, appreciated and noticed? It's not a one way street though. My boy is my world and my husband loves me just as much as I love him. That sets me on fire! I live to bring to joy into my family. And guess what? That is not what every woman or man lives for. Shocker. What a concept, everyone is different.

The real feminist supports women who are doing what they want to do.
The real feminist doesn't say what a woman should and should not do.

If you're the type of woman that is a power in the work force, that is fantastic. If it sets you on fire to be a doctor, mechanic, lawyer, general laborer, whatever it is, then do it! Do it because you love it, not to make a point. Because if you base your life on what everyone expects (even defying what people expect) then you are not living for you. Living for someone else will only leave you in an empty shell of what you wish you could be.

The real feminist doesn't condemn those who do differently than she does.
The real feminist takes life by the balls and does what she wants.

Am I sounding redundant? Repetitive? Excessive? Good, I want everyone to understand. Being a feminist doesn't mean doing everything in your power to be the opposite of what people see a traditional woman doing. Being a feminist means living your life according to your desires, not according to what everyone else expects. "Your life is your life", live it how you want to live it. Your version of happy living will look different than my version of happy living.

This poem feel extraordinarily relevant.

The Laughing Heart

your life is your life
don’t let it be clubbed into dank submission.
be on the watch.
there are ways out.
there is a light somewhere.
it may not be much light but
it beats the darkness.
be on the watch.
the gods will offer you chances.
know them.
take them.
you can’t beat death but
you can beat death in life, sometimes.
and the more often you learn to do it,
the more light there will be.
your life is your life.
know it while you have it.
you are marvelous
the gods wait to delight
in you.

@Charles Bukowski